Dan ,
I you want to pursue and localise the problem , try using the DA_131 utility from the AusChristmas lighting
site or I can email it to you.
For most of us down under , it is the first port of call in such situations as it removes the sequencer set up from the equation (xLights may be easy to define but others that I used last year were a tad tricky)
I used Unicast last year (but as an absolute minority down under) and only because it was my first year and once I got stuff to work (5 controllers) , I was not going to touch it for the rest of the year.
There are pages of discussion on this topic .
This year , I am so far using multicast as am redoing the network, but to be honest , I don't care much either way.